In The Beginning....




Hello world!
My name is Kira Jensen, and I'm a blogger. Well, I guess I am now...  It's funny that for years
I've wanted to start a blog, but it wasn't until I had to for a college class.  It's not the journey
that counts it's the destination right?.. or something. (Sorry Elder Utchdorf)
I'm a 25 year old LDS divorced woman, and this blog is exactly what the title suggests:
A collection of random musings of me( a marriage and family therapist major).
 Ok ok, technically they aren't random, I do intend to discuss the awesome things I'm learning
in my class that are helping me on my path to help people and share my experiences with those
who have or who are going through some things that I've experienced...but, you see, I'm a random
person.  Hence, my title of choice. Did you know that in Switzerland it is illegal to own just one
guinea pig....Hmm they have good chocolate. Ahem, anywho..
What has my life been up until this point? Well, I was born, having a very promising career as an
adorable child, became not so adorable, and continued being a child. I did normal childish things,
and I continued to do them well into my teenage years too. And you guessed it, I also continued to do
so as I entered into my self proclaimed budding adulthood. So,  thinking I was quite experienced and
old enough, but barely peeking out from the ferns of teen-hood, I got married. Life doesn’t start till you’re married right? Says the doe-eyed fresh(women)men seeking their MRS degree at BYU-I do. But, turns out for me, life doesn’t begin until after marriage, then divorce, an awkward in-between of getting a shred of my life back together, lots of summer jobs, preparing for a mission in the time it takes to actually go on one, and then actually going on one. So here I am, 25 and ready for life. What was the last 7 years? Boot camp, cram school,  a spiritual
“What not to wear” episode,  what have you. It was life, yes, but to me, from my marriage to now, life
stopped, The main plot halted while I went gallivanting on a side quest, an extra level you find if you go down the right pipe. Something apart of the game, but separated, concentrated, you get cool items that you could have done without, but it's totally worth taking the extra time and effort to get because it makes the rest of the game WAY easier. (Biggeron sword anyone?) Had I made some other choices, I’m sure I would have learned the same things I needed to, but over a much longer period of time. God knew I needed some major reprogramming, some serious help to have self-love and self-respect so I could actually feel like I deserved the amazing blessings God had planned in my life.  My mission was the final of the 6 year-long bonus level. And now that it’s over, life really starts. I get to finally work on continuing education, I can get married for real this time, I get to make choices and plans that no longer have an “after I” or “wait until” cap on it.  I can do what I want to do now.
It hasn’t been like that for 6 years, if you think about it, that’s about ¼ of my life I’ve lived up to now. So it’s weird to be back on the main road after ¼ of life. I’m free to move on! Yet It's ridiculous how I've managed to land myself back here at BYU-I'm not going to make that mistake again. It's like some odd Kira sandwich with the cheapest generic of brand white bread( 'cause lets be honest, us college kids can't afford more than that)


 So this blog, in a way, is the start of my 5th 1/4th. At the age of 25 I'm officially a menace to society, but thanks to the things I learned in my 4th 1/4th, I'm no longer a menace to myself




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